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Guidelines for Co-Workers
When
Co-workers Experience a Serious Personal Loss
- Expect
tears and sadness.
- Be open,
personal and timely in your expression of sympathy.
- Expect
to listen to the story of the grieving staff member more than once.
- Respect
privacy - honor closed doors and quiet moments.
- Offer
to provide specific and appropriate assistance (e.g., baby-sitting,
meals).
- Include
co-worker in social plans.
- Accept
less than best performance for a while, but expect a return to the best
they need to know that you recognize the impact of their loss, but that
you have confidence in them.
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When
a Co-worker Is Seriously Ill
- Keep in contact - let them know she or he is still part of the team.
- Learn
what can be shared and what is confidential.
- Organize
a system of calls, notes and other gestures of support.
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When
a Co-worker Dies
- Seek
an opportunity to share your feelings with other workers and for them
to share theirs with you.
- Be prepared
to offer more support to those who were particularly close with the
deceased.
- If appropriate,
choose a fellow worker to serve as liaison with the family and organize
the expression of sympathy flowers, card, donation, etc.
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What
To Do if You Suffer a Significant Loss
- Accept
that grief is normal and healing takes time.
- Anticipate
that feelings of overwhelming sadness will recur after the period of
intense grief is over. Special times might include holidays, anniversaries,
and birthdays.
- Realize
that others are uncomfortable and inexperienced at dealing with grief,
and be prepared to ask for what you need.
- Share
your feelings with friends and family.
- If necessary,
talk with your supervisor about a temporary adjustment in work hours
or work load.
- Ask about
the policy on bereavement leave and ask for additional leave if needed.
- If you
require emotional support and assistance contact the FASAP office.
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If
the Situation Involves Downsizing or Restructuring at Work
- Acknowledge your feelings of anger, disappointment or loss.
- Share your feelings with family, friends, and co-workers.
- Learn about university policies regarding transfers, replacements, and
rehiring.
- If necessary, seek advice from the employment and personnel representatives
for your department.
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