This chapter is the English translation of Gujarati Book
               Title   -  Sadhak and Sathi
               Author  -  Shri Atmanandji (Dr. Soneji)

      CHAPTER - 4


      The word "Brahmacharya" consists of two words:

      a.  Brahma means Soul and

      b.  Charya means Conduct.

      The code of conduct that leads to self-realization of Soul (or
      Atma) would, therefore, be the general meaning of Brahma-charya
      or celibacy.

      It should, however, be understood that the concept of celibacy
      is very wide, subtle and complicated.  Only a highly enlightened
      soul well-established in celibacy is really competent to give an
      all-embracing conceptual analysis of celibacy.  We are, however,
      trying to attempt hereunder a brief description and analysis of
      the subject of celibacy as it applies at the present-day.

      This is based on the doctrines of the ancient, illustrious
      Acharyas or saints who joined to our own limited experience.
      May this delight those who aim at the attainment of the sublime
      and supersensuous bliss and may it percolate in the depth of
      their souls, and lead them to exert themselves in all ways, in
      the practice of this pure, pious and supreme vow (Uttama Vrata)
      of "Brahma-charya".


      The proponents of Aryan culture have broadly classified the
      life activities of human being into four categories -
      Dharma, Artha, Karma, Moksha:

               (1)  Dharma:    Practice of religion

               (2)  Artha:     Activity for earning livelihood etc.

               (3)  Karma:     Activity for fame, family etc.

               (4)  Moksha:    Activity for the attainment of

      It is recommended that an average person should go through the
      four stages (Ashramas) of life known as Brahmacharya, Grihastha,
      Vanaprastha and Sanyasa Ashramas.  They are prescribed as

      1.  Brahmacharya-ashrama: Student Life

      2.  Gruhasth-ashrama:     Family Life

      3.  Vanaprasth-ashrsama:  Family and Social services period

      4.  Sanyast-ashrama:      Monkhood Life (Renunciation)

      Looking from the viewpoint of an average person, this kind of
      arrangement has been found fairly practical and quite useful to
      society.  However, there is one small group of exceptional
      personalities in society, that adopts a different course.
      Life-long celibacy right from childhood, gradually developing as
      a full-time aspirant - (Sadhaka).  This may be due to the
      psychic effects (sanskars) of previous lives, influence of the
      Guru (the teacher), good company, and a firm desire for
      liberation of the soul from the bondage of the body (Moksha).

      Once the right conviction becomes well established, life-long
      celibacy can lead a person more easily to the attainment of
      various extraordinary capacities which are ultimately conducive
      to self-realization.  This has been exemplified by the lives of
      so many saints, great souls and Acharyas.


      1. As expected of ordinary householders.

      2. As expected of seekers of true knowledge and persons desiring

      3. Complete Celibacy


         The Sadhakas of celibacy in this first stage have to resort
         to Sadhana while keeping intact their business and
         occupation, family structure, and social relations.  They try
         to practice celibacy by way of good manners or as advised by
         a religious preacher.  They have only relationship with their
         spouse and none with others.  Here, the spiritual vision is
         of least importance because they are not acquainted
         thoroughly with the original vital form of celibacy.

         Since, lofty morality is expected of people of high status in
         society, and taking into consideration the physical and
         social disadvantages of immoral behavior, these Sadhakas
         normally remain monogamous and therefore faithful just to
         their spouse only.


         Here, celibacy starts with conviction.  In persons of this
         cadre, real love of the vow of celibacy has arisen.  It
         arises because they have a clear conviction as to how
         celibacy of all types, physical, mental, social, and
         spiritual, is the source of an all sided sublimation.  This
         is analyzed scientifically and adjudged as conducive to
         happiness and usefulness.

         Observance of celibacy is particularly helpful in self-
         study, devotion, religion, self-identity and various types of
         meditation (Dhyana).  Sadhana of its worldly and spiritual
         forms commences here due to this experience.

         Feelings of acute tension do not cease till a person is fully
         satisfied with his own spouse alone.  Then the concentration
         on self-study is possible.  Such a Sadhaka arranges his
         life-routine in the proper order as renunciated in the
         scriptures.  He then renounces according to his ability.

         The causes mentioned below that are hindering to his vow of
         celibacy and takes recourse to others by which he can become
         stable in his vow of study.

      The following method will help in the observance of celibacy:

      a. Repeated acquaintances with Mahatmas, saints and monks.

      b. Following the guideline of a noble routine of life.  This
         means not letting the mind idle even for a moment and being
         constantly associated with one or the other type of good

      c. Methodical and regular study of good scriptures.

      d. Development of the virtue of humility, by devotion, worship
         and praise and full consciousness of one's own faults.

      e. Formation of good habits and observance of useful rules
         whereby one achieves the absence of addiction.  This means a
         habit of leading a regular life so that it becomes easy to
         master the five senses and the mind.  The mind becomes easily
         stable in Sadhana by the above practices.

      f. Discarding all external influences that intoxicate the mind.
         It means dissociation with watching movies, going to parties,
         club-visits, sensual entertainment, and so on.

      g. Not reading sensual literature like passion inspiring
         stories, songs, dramas etc, or even keeping such books in
         one's possession.

      h. In the area of discipline regarding food, discarding spicy
         foods as well as onions and garlic.  Total banishment of
         meat, alcohol and drug substance.  Rich foods like Ghee, milk
         and cream should also be taken within limits so that general
         health is maintained.

         Chapatis, pulses, rice, vegetables, fruits, and curds as also
         water and liquids should be taken in good quantity so that
         vitality and health are maintained.  Body and Mind will then
         retain their happiness and the person will engross himself in
         self-study, acquaintance with the noble people, and meditation
         in all its intensity.

         The Sadhaka should cultivate the habit of eating very plain
         food and occasionally less food.  With this, the Sadhana will
         gain a sense of purpose, the body will be healthy, idleness
         will end, and steadiness and attainment of concentration
         (Ashana) will develop.

         The study of religious scriptures (Tattva) is simultaneously
         necessary in the Sadhana of this stage.  Thus, observance of
         celibacy is not just physical Sadhana but it is one of
         constant awakening of the soul.  The Sadhaka comes to this
         realization through learning.

      Hence a man experiences satisfaction only with his wife.  But
      even then, even in a brief contact with his own wife, a man
      feels regret.  He performs some penance and feels distaste for
      the shortcomings of his soul.  He confirms his respect regarding
      celibacy again and again through listening to religious
      discourse, acquaintance with noble people, pilgrimage to holy
      places (Tirtha-Yatra) and study of philosophy.

      The Sadhaka also gives an impetus to his self by remembering, in
      veneration, great souls like Hanuman, Bhishma, Lord Neminath
      (Arishtanemi), Lord Parashwanath, Sudershan Sheth etc.  In
      recent times, Mahatma Gandhi and Ramkrishna Paramhansa retained
      married status and still practiced celibacy, thus presenting
      before us inspiring examples of the Sadhana of celibacy.  In
      this stage, there is to be observance of celibacy for twelve to
      twenty eight days per month or even more.  This leads to great
      success in steadiness of Sadhana.


      From the viewpoint of Ultimate Reality, this is the ultimate
      stage of a superman.  Its attainment is possible only to
      genuinely detached persons endowed with self- realization.  The
      vow of celibacy here, means its complete observance of this
      great vow.  The persons who have reached the highest stage, are
      genuinely merged in Atma (own Soul) as a reward of their supreme
      Sadhana of knowledge and self-control (Jnana-samyama).

      Still, however, for those who have attained to steadiness
      in celibacy by Sadhana, complete celibacy in speech,
      body, and mind, becomes possible.

      Mostly, such persons prefer to live in a monastery at the feet
      of a preceptor or in an Ashrama or a service organization
      for the safe and pure observance and maintenance of their
      vow.  This is because here they have the benefit of
      constant acquaintance with noble sages and religious discourses
      delivered by them.  Mostly, they are full-time

      If, in the case of some persons, may have a small responsibility
      as householder, they might pay a casual visit to their houses,
      but once that worldly responsibility is fulfilled, they get
      fully engrossed in the constant pursuit of purity.  It is then
      that their complete celibacy shines out in its true color and

      It need hardly be stressed that when such a Sadhaka has to
      go to his worldly home, he stays in a separate lonely room,
      observes his daily routine and takes no interest in worldly
      problems except where and when he must.  He retires to his
      abode of yoga as soon as his work is over.


      1. The celibate, who on viewing a young beauty in full bloom,
         does not get excited in the slightest degree and considers
         her to no more than a wooden doll, is like god himself.

         If a person controls his passion, he can conquer the whole
         world.  This is like vanquishing the king during a war, as a
         result of which the whole kingdom along with the army and its
         power is conquered too.

         Strength is always required to accomplish any task.  The same
         is also true for self-knowledge.  Let the wise therefore,
         take on the strength of celibacy to accomplish the same.

      2. One who desires to attain to the Supreme Reality, observes

      3. The practice of celibacy is indeed a major and unmatched
         contributory factor in:

         a. Controlling all the five senses and the mind

         b. Avoidance of all lethargy

         c. Attainment of the highest degree of self-contemplation

         d. Sadhana of all types conducive to the liberation (Mokhsha)
            of the Soul

      4. Celibacy is said to be the most difficult of all vows and
         therefore it is considered as the principal vow (Vrata).  No
         penance is sufficient for a monk or a Muni who violates this
         fundamental vow in the smallest degree.  Breach of this vow
         is the downfall of a Sadhaka.  Sadhakas, therefore, have to
         nourish this vow of celibacy all with due care and alertness.

      5. Celibacy is said to be the supreme austerity (Tapa).

      6. The man who observes faultless, true and complete celibacy
         deserves all praise and veneration, not only from common
         people of the world, but also from all great souls.

      7. Observance of celibacy even in a dream is not possible for
         persons with limited capacity and loose character, who are
         timid, helpless, and slaves to their senses.  Only persons of
         great spirit are able to observe this vow in its true sense.

      8. Even highly enlightened souls envisage no possibility of
         expiration for a breach of this vow.  They are unanimous that
         it must be observed under all circumstances.

      9. Strength and health are the benefits of celibacy.  Further,
         it confers long life and brightness of mind.  The body is
         energized, the intellect and memory get sharpened, speech
         becomes lucid and powerful.  By observance of celibacy,
         steadiness of concentration is achieved and the experience of
         a state of noble thinking gets extended.  When a person is in
         meditation, he feels no fatigue and he can become a master of
         Samadhi that yields supreme bliss through the attainment of
         multifaceted self-control.  We thus realize that celibacy is
         the best companion of a Sadhaka.



      One of the main disciples of Swami Vivekananda was Swami
      Vibhutananda.  The pupil was as capable as the teacher.

      Once, a young woman entered his apartment with lustful
      intention, but when she saw the very gentle figure and
      divine luster of the Swami, she was stunned.  Seeing her
      stunned, the Swami said, "Well mother, you will not go
      without something!"  He offered Prasada (food) to her and she
      had no option but to accept it.  The instinct of lust in the
      woman was dissipated on hearing the word "Mother".

      She accepted the Prasada of God, bowed before the Swami
      with tears rolling down her eyes, begged forgiveness and

      Such was the impressive grandeur of observance of life-long


      The king Chhatrasal (Maharaja) was a great warrior of
      the seventeenth century, well known for his nobility and
      philanthropic works.  He ruled in parts of northern India and
      gave a bitter fight to Moslim Emperor Aurangzeb.

      He was the ruler of the kingdom of Panna around the year 1670
      A.D.  He was heroic like a lion and far brighter was his luster
      of celibacy.  Besides being a man of royal blood, he was in the
      full bloom of youth.  On seeing his grand personality, one
      daughter of a feudatory lord became enamored of him.  She was
      maddened by love for him.  Lust is blind and when one is
      overcome by it, one loses all sense of understanding and reason.
      She approached the king and, with folded hands, she said, "Well,
      your honor!  I am very much afflicted!"

      "Noble lady!  What is the cause of your affliction?"
      inquired the king carefully and cautiously.  "I can reveal
      that only if you promise to remedy it," replied the lady
      slyly.  The king, with his simple heart, replied:  "I shall
      certainly help you, if possible."  The young woman, with
      uncontrolled expression and gestures said, "Sir, I am
      childless.  I desire a son like you".

      For a moment, the king was stunned, but he immediately
      controlled himself, "Oh, you only desire a son like me.
      Well mother!  Chhatrasal is your son."

      The king touched her feet and accepted her as queen-mother.
      Such was his youthful righteousness, his patience and

      In the history of Bundelkhand, the time of this king's rule
      is considered to be a golden period.  Under his ruling
      his subjects had full security and prosperity.


      Pandit Shri Sumeru-chandra Diwakar is a great scholar of
      modern Jain Society.  He is over eighty years old and lives at
      Shivni, near Nagpur in Madhya Pradesh.

      Once during the Paryushana festival, he was lecturing to a group
      of youths.  He preached Dharma and then added, "Friends, do
      exercise and cultivate self-control.  This will lead to perfect
      health and you will never require the vitamin tablets from

      The young men started asking among themselves.  "We should
      like to know how far Panditji exercises self-control

      On hearing this Pandit Indralal Shastri said,  "Friends,
      Panditji is a celibate from childhood."  The youths were


      Dayanand Saraswati (Maharshi) was a great religious leader and
      authority on the Vedas of Hindu religion.  He founded
      "Arya-Samaj", a socio-religion institute in the last century in

      Dayanand Saraswati was visiting Ashwinikumar Dutt in

      Ashwinikumar, "Sir!  Does Kama (lust) ever bother you?"

      Dayanand Saraswati, "Kama!  I always engage myself in
      Kama (work).  Therefore Kama (lust) never crosses my mind."

      Ashwinikumar, "Isn't your body like other humans?"

      Dayanand Saraswati, "A person who has destroyed sinful
      attitudes through practice of yoga and devotion to God and
      spends rest of the time helping others has satisfaction of
      happiness of soul.  Such person does not even think of lust
      or such vices."

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