This chapter is the English translation of Gujarati Book
               Title   -  Sadhak and Sathi
               Author  -  Shri Atmanandji (Dr. Soneji)

                              CHAPTER  11

                       RESTRAINT  OF  WANTONNESS

      The general meaning of wantonness is self-willed and
      uncontrolled behavior.  It is only when one follows in
      day-to-day life the sublime instructions of the highly virtuous
      and enlightened saint or preceptor that one can control this
      wantonness.  Thus by controlling this wantonness, one is drawn
      to the propitious path.

      In general, the human mind has a downward inclination.  From the
      beginning of the time, the human soul is habituated to be a
      slave under the five senses and mind.  The soul is attached to
      the mind, senses, and evil company that it has absolutely no
      idea of the utter loss of its independence.

      However we are extremely lucky, that with the grace of pious
      and learned saint, we can defeat this wantonness with great
      effort and diligence.  This will lead the soul to understand its
      own bliss.


      For properly controlling wantonness, two things are required;
      Right  Knowledge and Right Preaching.

      Let us question ourselves:  Can we be really happy by wanton
      behavior?  Or is wantonness the real means to be happy?
      Thinking even from the social point of view, good social order
      and peace cannot be established by fostering wantonness.  The
      whole society would suffer from anarchy, distress, disquiet, and
      chaos, if it fails to adopt certain good and moral rules of
      conduct and a righteous way of life.  One should, under the
      circumstances, think of the likely consequences of such conduct
      at the individual level as well.

      Thinking from the spiritual point of view, we should concede
      that what is right at the family and social level, this is also
      true at the individual level.  No individual would be happy by
      becoming slave of his mind, five senses, and behaving in a
      wanton manner.

      Considering from any viewpoint, one who behaves unrighteously is
      unhappy, his mind is restless and his personality bewildered,
      frightened, and dissatisfied.  We should therefore be convinced
      that happiness and peace cannot be attained by wanton

      Once we are convinced that wantonness is the root of all
      sufferings, it becomes necessary to consider the ways and means
      through which it can be controlled.

      For this, our conduct should be guided by the right type of
      discrimination.  Let us follow the sublime and just teachings of
      those great saints of ancient and modern times who have acquired
      genuine happiness and peace.  Let us associate ourselves with
      them, wherever possible.  Slowly but surely this brings about
      the developmental and sublimating change in our life, so that
      several good virtues become manifest in us.  Once this is
      achieved, true faith and true awakening of the self become
      firmly accomplished.  With this, wantonness starts vanishing.

      Thus the control of wantonness is accomplished with ease.


      When a person thinks, "I am great, I am learned, no one is equal
      of me," and so on, he will not be able to progress spiritually
      in his life.  Because such thinking results from false pride and
      lurk in his life.

      Success is possible only if one becomes impartial and patiently
      ponders over the problem.  Then one will realize that in all
      walks of life, far greater persons have been born than himself.
      This will dissipate his pride of family, knowledge, worship,
      fame, body, handsomeness, wealth, youth and various similar

      Thus one develops humility, a spirit of adoption of virtues, and
      a compassionate heart.  Now wantonness will leave him.  Once one
      abandons the path of wantonness, all vices start disappearing
      from within in a short time and with the rise of so many
      virtues, one can win supreme happiness.  Therefore, it is said,
      "To follow the preachings of the great and pious saints is the
      real religion (Dharma), and it is the real austerity (Tapas)."


      1. "Man can surely win liberation by controlling wantonness.
         Thus, salvation has been achieved by endless endeavors."  So
         said the sacred Jain Tirthankaras.

      2. The progress in the path of salvation is directly in
         proportion to the degree of suppression of wantonness.

      3. If a person is led away by the uncontrolled five senses and
         mind, he will suffer from diseases, poverty, and dishonor in
         this life, and the pains of low birth, such as animal, bird,
         hell, and vegetables, in the life hereafter.

      4. Let a person follow to the preachings of a noble preceptor to
         enhance his fitness to be firmly established on the path of

      5. To abandon bad habits, to take no interest in useless and
         trivial matters, to give up bad deeds with conscious efforts,
         to keep the mind engaged in feelings, speech, and deeds that
         will make life rich, noble, and pure - all these are
         practical ways and means of avoiding wantonness.  Thus one
         attains purity as well as sublimity in life.

      6. A person always falls prey to wantonness, if he behaves in
         such a way as to scoff at the sublime teachings and
         commandments of the preceptor, and not being afraid of
         mundane worldly existence.  Every command of the wise is
         conducive to a multifaceted personality.  Let a person not,
         therefore, ponder over the high and low of it, or quarrel
         with insistence about it.  Wantonness is healed only if one
         realizes that every command of the wise is blissful.  If
         wantonness is healed, the soul (person) attains to bliss.



      Shrimad Rajchandra had written his personal diary and gave it
      to his disciple monk Shri Lalluji to copy down some useful part
      of it.  Shri Lalluji copied that part plus a few other parts
      which he found useful.  He had thought of obtaining the
      permission for the other parts in the morning because his vows
      as a monk did not permit him to go out at night to see Shrimad

      Next morning, Shri Lalluji placed all the copied pages and diary
      before Shrimad Rajchandra and said, "As it was night, I could
      not come to get your permission.  I have copied from the diary a
      few more pages than you permitted." Shrimad Rajchandra kept his
      diary and all the copied pages in his own custody.  He gave
      nothing back to Shri Lalluji.  Lalluji repented of it and
      narrated everything before Ambalalhbai, a householder pupil of
      Shrimad Rajchandra.  He too scolded him for copying extra pages
      without permission.  Shri Lalluji requested Shrimad Rajchandra
      again through Ambalalbhai to return him the copied pages.  He
      then hand over to Lalluji all that he had copied.

      This was one of the ways in which Shrimad Rajchandra revealed
      the glory of control of wantonness and preached again and again
      to resort to self control (Atma-Sadhana) under the orders of the


      Bhudeva Mukhopadhyaya was a great man of the state of Bengal,
      India during the last century.  He was a great scholar who
      specialized in philosophy and logic.  He was a strict
      disciplinarian and he had brought up his family with the
      traditional cultural way of life.

      He had a grandson named Somadeva.  Somadeva was seven years old
      at the time.

      Once both were travelling together to Calcutta, they were at the
      Hoogli railway station.  The grand father asked the son to sit
      on a bench on the platform and said, "Be seated until I come.
      Do not get up." The father was busy arranging about the luggage.
      The train arrived and all the passengers took their seats in the
      train.  The grand father suddenly remembered Somadeva.  There he
      was, seated on the bench while his eyes were searching for his
      grand father.  Immediately the father ran and lifted him into
      the train.  Then he asked, "Well, dear boy, why did you not come
      on your own to sit in the train?"

      Somadeva replied, "Under your orders, I sat there.  How could I
      get up before you came?"

      All hearts were elated by the boy's firmness in obeying orders.


      George Washington, the first President of the USA was renowned
      for regularity and discipline in his life.  He was firm and
      insistent on accomplishing a fixed amount of work in a fixed
      amount of time.

      Once he had arranged a party at his house to welcome the newly
      elected members of the American Congress.  The members arrived
      late and Washington started on his dinner!  When the members
      arrived, they were amazed by it.  Then Washington said, "Well
      friends, I am so sorry, but my butler serves my dinner at a
      fixed time because he knows that his master takes his meals at a
      fixed hour."

      With this, Washington continued with his dinner and all the
      members joined him.

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